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I'm not sure I have ever been so damn afraid in my life. I think I may go completely insane if I don't share my fears with someone.

My mother thinks she may have had a mild stroke over the weekend. She's having some difficulty closing her left eye, and there is some obvious weakness on the left side of her face. She can communicate without any problems, so there seems to be nothing wrong with her cognitive functions. Her speech has a 'lispy' quality, but that appears to be from the left side weakness. She didn't tell me about this until Saturday night, even though she felt something 'off' during the night Thursday/Friday. I begged her to go to the doctor 1st thing on Monday... she REFUSED to be taken to the Emergency Room. The doctor visit was a complete cluster-fuck of EPIC proportions.

She called the Dr office, said 'this an emergency, I need to see the dr, I think I've had a stroke.' The reply 'oh, well if you get her by 2 pm at the latest, it's possible that we can work you in.' Mother was there by 12:30, and wasn't put in an exam room until 1:45. When the dr finally sees her, he half-ass listens to her listing her symptoms, checks her pulse and listens to her chest. He writes out a whole list of prescriptions, doesn't tell her what a damn one of them is for, says 'we'll see if we can schedule an MRI.' He hands her the scripts and her chart and sends her to check out.

How dare this man call himself a doctor, much less be able to sleep at night knowing this is the quality of care he gives his patients? I understand that he has a lot of other people to see each day, and yes my mother was a 'work-in' but how can he feel confident that he did the best job that he could do if he spent less than five minutes with my mother and didn't explain anything to her? Half of the medicines he prescribed were medicines she was on previously, but had to stop taking because they were no longer effective in treating her conditions.

Needless to say, mother is switching doctors and is going to tell her former doctor to 'go piss up a rope,' more than likely after she files a malpractice suit for gross negligence.

I am so worried that this is going to get much worse. I can't sleep for all of the horrible scenarios that are going through my head.

Date: 2011-06-22 08:19 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Oh damn.

*hugs you hard*

Yes, that's just inexcusable behaviour from the doctor. Switching doctors sounds like a definite necessity - a stroke (and yes, it does sound like that's a possibility) is not something to take lightly.

I will keep my fingers crossed for your mother and that she'll recover, and that the next doctor is someone who will actually take this seriously, so that she'll get the help she needs.

Good luck to you and your family. *hugs again*

Date: 2011-06-22 08:35 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
*hugs you back* Thank you Kribu, for keeping us in your thoughts.

I can't even describe my level of disgust when all mom came home with was a prescription pad of 8 different medicines, no explanation as to what might be going on, and only a vague hope of possibly getting this checked out through further testing. I tell you if homicide wasn't illegal, there would be one less doctor in my part of the world. The sad thing is I'm certain there are other people he has treated in the same callous manner. How on earth is this man able to keep his medical license?

Mom has an appointment Thursday morning (about 30 hours from now) with a new doctor who treats my son, my nieces and my brother and is in the same clinic as 3 other doctors. I feel very comfortable with this doctor. I KNOW he will listen to my mother and explain everything she wants/needs to know.

Date: 2011-06-22 10:51 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I can understand your fear. One thing I hope will reassure is generally a person does not "get worse" while recovering from a stroke. The exercise of performing tasks in her daily life can actually strengthen and retrain the muscular and/or nerve damage. Your mother is right to go to a different doctor though and immediately. Her risk is she may suffer more strokes without treatment (if this is what has happened).

Date: 2011-06-22 03:02 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I suppose it's my awful 'worst-case scenario' way of thinking that has me so worried about this. I can't imagine any good doctor thinking it's ok to wait to find out what is really going on after a possible stroke.

Thank you for your positive thoughts Irish.

Date: 2011-06-22 01:35 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Oh dear. Glad to hear your mom is switching doctors, but it's unfortunate that she'll have to do so. You're both in my thoughts.


Date: 2011-06-22 03:09 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Thank you for keeping us in your thoughts D. I hate it that mom has to change doctors because she can't trust her doctor of 20 years to give a damn enough to actually do something about her medical issues/concerns. That 'herding' mentality that doctor has (get patients in & out as fast as possible) is going to result in a death. His quality of care is appalling.

Date: 2011-06-22 01:45 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Goodness. So sorry to hear your mum had to go through that. Here's to hoping she'll get better care from the other doctor. ~hugs you and sends healing vibes to your mum~

Date: 2011-06-22 03:24 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Thanks so much for your positive vibes. I am certain that this new doctor will be much more effective in managing my mother's care. He was the doctor my brother took my niece to when another doctor misdiagnosed her, so I am very confident in his abilities.


Date: 2011-06-23 12:53 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]

no good, my friend. geez. hopefully her former, better doctor will be more of a comfort. *hugshugshugshugs*

she's okay now and she will get better after the new doc. prayers for you. <3

Date: 2011-06-23 03:42 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I have complete faith in her new doctor. I know that he'll be able to help mom. I'm just so damn worried about the outcome of this. I really hope this will give my mom the wake-up call she needs to quit some of her unhealthy habits... ie, smoking, indulging of the sweets (she's diabetic), not keeping regular appointments with her Gastroenterologist.

Thank you for your prayers Nom. It really means a lot to me.
{fierce squish}


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